I think every woman I know has said it at least once — “I just want to have it all.” The career, the love, the home, the confidence, the peace. But the older I get, the more I realize how hard that really is. Not because we’re not capable, but because we’re expected to juggle everything flawlessly — and smile while doing it.
It’s like we’ve been sold this idea that we can be everything at once: the ambitious professional, the nurturing mom, the supportive partner, the fit friend, the social butterfly, the woman who’s “got it all together.” And honestly? It’s exhausting.
We can build businesses, raise families, and show up for everyone around us — but still feel like something’s slipping through the cracks. There’s this constant guilt that no matter what we choose, something else gets neglected. If you focus on your career, you’re afraid you’re missing out on family time. If you slow down to enjoy motherhood or your personal life, you worry you’re losing momentum professionally.
And even when we do manage to balance it, society still finds a way to make us feel like we’re doing too much or not enough. It’s a lose-lose sometimes.
But here’s what I’m learning: maybe “having it all” doesn’t mean doing it all at once. Maybe it’s more about giving yourself permission to shift your priorities without guilt. Some seasons you’ll be in grind mode, building and creating. Other seasons you’ll crave rest, family, or just a slower pace. And that’s okay.
We can have our cake — but we don’t have to eat it all in one sitting.
Maybe true balance isn’t about perfection, but about peace. It’s about knowing what matters most right now, and letting that be enough. Because at the end of the day, women don’t need to prove they can do everything — we just need the space and grace to choose what matters most to us in each moment.
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